Turning the Page: A Story of Transformation and Leadership.

On March 21, 2024March 21, 2024 By travelsforchocolateIn Mental Health, Military Service1 Comment

In the heart of New Mexico’s desert landscapes, my journey unfolded within the DoD Innovative Readiness Training Taskforce. At 23, I, found myself deeply embedded in the military’s operations, often presenting to Army General Officers at Joint Task Force-North. Despite my achievements and dedication, there was a part of me that felt out of place, marked by the tattoos on my hands – remnants of a past life, symbols from a chapter I wished to close. These tattoos, gang symbols from before I found refuge and purpose in the military at seventeen, were a stark contrast to the person I had become. Being a single mother added another layer to my desire to erase these marks; I wanted to present the best version of myself to my child and not be judged for the missteps of my youth.

Me at age 23 pictured with my daughter, Jaedon age 1.

Feeling weighed down by these visual reminders of my past, I sought the counsel of my Command Sergeant Major, a person of wisdom and respect. I opened up about my desire to have the tattoos removed but was hindered by the financial burden it entailed. It was a moment of vulnerability, sharing a part of my story that I had kept shielded under the rings on my fingers and the sleeves of my uniform.

To my surprise and relief, the Command Sergeant Major took my concern to heart. He saw beyond the request, understanding the profound impact such a gesture could have on my life and career. He proposed a plan to The Adjutant General, suggesting a command directive that would allow me to have the tattoos removed without any cost to me. The Adjutant General’s agreement to this plan was a turning point for me.

The day I received the memorandum command directing tattoo removal , my world changed. It wasn’t just a document; it was a symbol of faith, an acknowledgment of my growth, and an investment in my future. The subsequent removal of the tattoos was transformative, not just physically, but emotionally and psychologically. It was as if I had been given a clean slate, an opportunity to redefine myself and stride forward without the weight of my past judgments.

Pictured in my office at Kirtland Air Force base where NM-IRT headquarters was located.

This experience taught me an invaluable lesson about leadership and compassion. It underscored the profound difference that support and belief in someone’s potential can make. My leaders didn’t just see me for who I was or where I had been; they saw me for who I could become. Their investment in me was a testament to the idea that when we lift others up, we foster an environment of growth, respect, and mutual support.

The story of how my leadership helped me close a chapter of my past and confidently face my future is one I hold close to my heart. It’s a reminder that everyone has the power to change their narrative, especially when there are people who believe in and support them. It’s a lesson I will carry with me always: invest in people wherever and whenever you can. It truly makes all the difference.

Always forward.

The Hidden Gift in Disappointment and Betrayal Trauma: A Testament to Courage.

On March 7, 2024March 7, 2024 By travelsforchocolateIn Mental Health, Military ServiceLeave a comment

I’ve been reflecting deeply on the paradoxical blessing of disappointment. It’s a common experience to feel a sense of shame when we encounter failures, rejections, or the end of relationships. I recently fell into this trap myself. However, it’s crucial to recognize that disappointment is actually a testament to bravery. It signals that you had the courage to invest emotionally, to strive, and to pursue your desires wholeheartedly.

Yet, there’s another layer to this, particularly when disappointment stems from betrayal. Betrayal trauma occurs when someone we deeply trust or depend upon lets us down in a profound way. This type of disappointment is not just about unmet expectations but a profound violation of trust. It shakes the foundation of what we believed was secure, questioning our judgment and our capacity to trust.

Nevertheless, even in the throes of betrayal trauma, there’s a hidden gift. It’s an opportunity to confront our deepest vulnerabilities and fears, to understand our capacity for resilience, and to ultimately grow from the experience. Just as disappointment in other areas of life shows we dared to dream and reach for what we wanted, navigating through betrayal trauma reveals our strength to face profound emotional challenges, learn from them, and emerge stronger.

So, celebrate yourself. In a world where apathy and half-hearted efforts are all too common, you’ve shown that you’re willing to be fully present and engaged, even at the risk of pain. That’s not just brave; it’s profound.

Always forward.

Legacy of Love: Honoring Jose G. Lucero

On February 7, 2024February 6, 2024 By travelsforchocolateIn Military Service, UncategorizedLeave a comment

In Loving Memory of Padrino Jose G. Lucero: A Legacy of Courage and Love

In the intricate tapestry of human existence, one thread stands out with remarkable resilience and tenderness—my beloved Padrino, Jose G. Lucero. An Army Sergeant during World War II, a survivor of the Bataan Death March, and a symbol of unwavering courage and love, his life story transcends mere history—it embodies the very essence of resilience and compassion.

I still remember the warmth of his embrace, the strength in his voice, and the wisdom in his eyes. Despite the scars of war etched upon his soul, my Padrino embraced life with unparalleled intensity, offering guidance and love to all who crossed his path. His presence was a beacon of hope in a world often covered in darkness. Our secret handshake, accompanied by a folded fifty-dollar bill and his playful admonition, “Don’t spend it all in one place,” remains etched in my memory as a testament to his boundless affection and generosity.

Jose G. Lucero, 1979
High School Principal, Mora, New Mexico

Through countless conversations, my Padrino shared with me the harrowing details of his wartime experiences, imparting not only tales of bravery but also a deep sense of duty and honor. His stories were more than mere recollections of the past; they were lessons in courage, sacrifice, and the profound bonds of brotherhood forged in the intense experience of war. They kept each other alive, maintaining a bond that I now understand through the camaraderie I share with my fellow battle buddies. No matter how much time has passed, we always pick up right where we left off.

SGT Jose G. Lucero reunited with Specialist Agapito G. Silva in Santa Fe, New Mexico. The battling bastards of Bataan.

Beyond his wartime heroics, it was my Padrino’s boundless love and unwavering support that truly defined him. From the moment I entered this world, he and my Madrina, Stella, embraced me as their own, showering me with love and guidance. They weren’t just godparents in title, but guardian angels who watched over me with immeasurable love. His words of encouragement, “Soldiers always march forward,” continue to resonate with me, serving as a source of strength and determination in the face of adversity.

His teachings on the honor behind serving were a guiding light, shaping my perspective on what it means to be part of something larger than myself. The lessons he imparted were not just about the past; they were a blueprint for living a life of purpose, integrity, and dedication. My decision to serve was a tribute to his legacy, a way to honor his sacrifice and continue the tradition of service that he held in such high regard.

Though my Padrino passed when I was twenty-two years old, his spirit remains ever-present, a testament to the enduring power of love and the unbeatable strength of the human spirit. His words—”Wipe the blood from your eyes, little girl”—serve as a reminder that no challenge is insurmountable.

Happy Birthday, Padrino. Always forward.